Feeding kids with noodles and cereal to grow tall and fat does not signify maturity. Sending them to higher paid school does not portray that they know their left from right and possibly can take care of themselves. When I watched a video of the 9year old girl who ignited fire from a lighter to burn goods in a Mart, my first question was” Why was she allowed to roam alone and not under the supervision of guardian or adult?
I have read comments that she is possessed, demonized or sent by enemies. if she doesn’t confess to all of that, I think we should look at it from a different perspective. In the year 1991, I saw a familiar scene. A whole family house was on flame and it wasn”t film tricks. Firemen had to rescue the incident, in today’s world of social media, you and I would read something like “the devil’s incarnate is on the loose”.
Today, the boy is now a grown man with his family and doing well. We discussed all the time because he is my relative, the nicest of them. Whenever I remember that fire scene, I call it silly child’s play, a little carelessness from a “wee wee”. Raising children is not a part-time issue, you have to put extra effort. Each phase of their life comes with new and bigger challenges. Regardless of what the school or society teaches, the greatest influence on a child comes from the parents or guardian.
Children are naturally inquisitive and always want to try new things. Parental supervisor or guidance is needed when it comes to them. If you noticed they are out of your sight and also quiet, look around for them. When the child comes out ask “where were you?” If you see where the child came out from, ask what he or she was doing ( even if they came out from anywhere in the house). Check on your kids consistently.
Children follow your examples, not advice, so be cautious what you do before them. Keep some tools, object and substances that is harmful out of the reach of children. No child is mature, they will always act their age. Always communicate with your kids in a liberal manner. Shouting, screaming or beating is not a medium of communication but discipline. Create and take time to know how your kids behave.
Children are generational seeds, if you want them to become fruitful in the future, nurture them. You may not be able to do everything but God will give you the strength because He Put you to that responsibility.
Mfon Etina Etina writes from Akwa Ibom state